We talk a lot about toxic love, but what does an unhealthy relationship actually look like in real life?

In this episode, I’m diving deep into the signs of unhealthy relationships that often go unnoticed, minimized, or even mistaken for “just relationship struggles.” We’ll explore how unhealthy dynamics show up emotionally, mentally, and physically… and why so many of us stay even when we know something doesn’t feel right.

If you’ve ever felt confused, constantly anxious, like you’re walking on eggshells—or questioning whether your relationship is “bad enough” to leave—this is for you.

We’ll also talk about:

• What healthy vs. unhealthy love really looks like
• Why you might be attracted to familiar patterns
• How to leave the relationship safely 
• And can this relationship workout?
• HOW DO YOU LOVE YOURSELF BETTER

This episode is honest, compassionate, and here to help you see clearly—because love shouldn’t leave you drained and confused about where you stand. Where do we draw the line when we love someone?

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When we begin to understand the traits around our attachment styles, the coins really begin to drop and so much begins to make sense on how we love, almost that you will stop feeling like something is wrong with you or judging yourself for wanting more or feeling like you just do not understand why you cant be "normal" the way your partner wants you to be. Why is there this lingering feeling in your heart always feeling like something is just not quite right! you are not alone. When i began to heal my anxious attachment I felt like I was giving myself the hug I always needed!

So if this is you then you might be experiencing anxious attachment—and you’re not alone. (Trust me).

In this episode, we’re getting real about what anxious attachment actually looks like in relationships. Not the textbook version—the lived one. The one where you love deeply but fear being too much. Where you crave closeness but feel like you're constantly trying to “prove” you're worthy of staying.

You’ll learn:
 💬 What anxious attachment really sounds and feels like
 💬 The traits that show up in everyday connection
 💬 How these patterns often start in childhood
 💬 Why it’s not your fault—and how awareness is the first step toward change

This isn’t about judgment or labeling. It’s about compassionate understanding and helping you name what you’ve been feeling so you can start creating secure, safe, and grounded love.

Creating safe and secure love only comes from accepting your attachment style and know that with compassion you can heal it. 

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I felt it was really important we set a foundation for the rest of the episodes to come. Once we know and understand our blue print, understanding how we navigate adult relationships will make so much sense. I want you to keep in mind we are not looking back in our childhoods to demonise our parents or beat ourselves up. This is a blue print on how you were loved and how you look for a very similar love. Its so important you walk away from this episode knowing you can change your attachment style. 

Now as we look into this episode this is what you will walk away with:

💥 What each of the 4 attachment styles actually looks like in real life
💥 How your early experiences wired your nervous system to seek certain types of love
💥 Why some people constantly chase connection while others run from it
💥 What kind of upbringing leads to each style (this will hit home)
💥 Why your attachment style is fluid—not fixed—and how you can move toward secure love

Whether you’re in a relationship, healing from one, or trying to understand your patterns, this episode is a deep dive into the emotional blueprint behind how you love, trust, connect, and cope.

You’ll walk away with: ✨ Clarity on your attachment style
 ✨ Compassion for why you show up the way you do
 ✨ And hope that you can absolutely change the way you love—starting now.

🎧 Listen now and on instagram tag @shazmeenbank with your biggest takeaway. I’d love to hear how this lands for you.
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Why do we feel ashamed for staying in a toxic relationship—even when we know it’s hurting us? The truth is, leaving isn’t as easy as people think, and the shame of staying often keeps us even more stuck. But here’s what no one tells you: you don’t have to feel ashamed.

In this episode, we’re unpacking:
 💔 Why we stay—the emotional, psychological, and even biological reasons that make leaving feel impossible
🧠 The hidden shame—how self-blame, societal judgment, and past wounds fuel our guilt
🚪 Why leaving is so hard—and why that doesn’t mean you’re weak or broken
🌱 Releasing the shame—how to shift from self-blame to self-compassion so you can move forward

If you’ve ever thought “I know this is toxic… so why can’t I just leave?”—this episode is for you. You are not alone, and you are not weak. Shame only keeps us stuck, but understanding why we feel it is the first step to breaking free.

🎧 Tune in now. Let’s break the cycle together and learn to love ourselves Better.

Why do we crave love, yet end up in relationships that feel like an emotional tug-of-war? The anxious-avoidant trap is one of the most common yet painful relationship cycles—one person seeks closeness, while the other pulls away. If you've ever felt like you're chasing someone who won’t commit or avoiding someone who wants more from you, this episode is for you.

In this episode, I open up about:
 💔 The anxious-avoidant dynamic and why it creates push-pull relationships
 💭 Why anxious and avoidant partners are drawn to each other (but struggle to stay happy)
 🚪 How avoidants retreat and why anxious partners feel abandoned
 ✨ The cycle that keeps this dynamic going—and how to break free

If you’ve ever wondered can we get out of this negative cycle and what is this pattern all about —this episode will give you the answers.

🎧 Tune in now and let’s break the cycle together.

This episode took a lot of vulnerability yet almost two years into healing to be able to share. I share because so many of you are silently hoping for a bette relationship and many of you write to me and ask me how do i just "love better". This episode covers, pain, shame, guilt, confusion, wonder, loss and self discovery. We look into the dynamics of anxious and avoidant relationships and it takes a lot to be brave and truly discuss these topics in order to free ourselves to heal. How do we love better, how do we love another when we can not be honest with ourselves on where we really are and who we are and what we deeply desire? I hope this episode allows you the freedom to go within and be brave about your own relationships and the most important one, that with yourself. 

This episode is to really ground you and bring you back home. To a place we have all forgotten, and that is a deep connection with ourself.

We live in a world where we are already really fighting for space and recognition.  Already feel so lonely and alone. You need to thrive in your relationships. 

All relationships hit that point where you wonder will this work or not... together Mohammed and I, shazmeen Bank talk you through how so much can change to bring you two back from the edge.